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Wednesday, June 29, 2016

New bedrooms and Vacations!

I showed you the triple bunk beds that my Son in Love Dan made for us in the post below. We needed special sizes. The new bunks are 17" shorter and 7" narrower than regular bunks. They'll save a lot of space.

Because of that we can use our biggest bedroom to put the bunks side by side. The largest upstairs bedroom was once a living room when our house was a Duplex many years ago. (our house was built in the 1859)

Isaiah, Jacob, Julius and Pauly share that big room now. Isaiah will move out and into Samson, Moses and Noah's small bedroom. The small bedroom was a kitchen when our house was a Duplex!

Isaiah is getting the new white loft bed above. We'll set his desk and book shelves underneath. He will have the small bedroom all to himself at night. During the day the boys will still play in there. :o)

When the 6 boys move into the new bunks in the big bedroom, They'll have room for their tables and chairs and toys too, all in one room. It will be set up simple, so they can pick it up easily.

We'll have the beds up July 4th. And then I need to paint the bedroom walls! Walls that are very worn from 6 little people over the last 3-5 years! After painting- the fun starts- personalizing their new rooms!

Hopefully I'll have a lot of this done before we leave for Camp Uffda! Our vaca property. We have set aside 44 days to stay up this year!!

 The trees are so beautiful up there. Lots of pines and Tamaracks. The tamaracks are my favorite tree, they turn yellow in the fall, the only "pine" to do this.

We are farther from the tiny City of 500 nearby. But still close enough for MA and SP to go shopping and out to eat! :o)

We have electric now! Woo-Hoo! A huge yard light. Lights all around the building. The refridge, freezer and dryer are now plugged in! But no water yet. Maybe next year. We have to sort through everything and set it up. We will be able to come up in the winter now too. We have electric heat installed in our living area of the building and of course the trailers are heated.

We have been scaling back and selling a lot things we don't need. We were slightly disappointed that we received so little for our efforts.

Until I re-thought about what Paul said in Philippians 4:11-
"11 Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content: 12 I know how to be abased, and I know how to abound. Everywhere and in all things I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. 13 I can do all things through Christ[b] who strengthens me."

You see if our things hadn't sold, we would have given them away to the Salvation Army. And that would have made us happy as well. So it was curious as to why getting 1/4 of the value of the things we sold distressed us so. 
Until I used Philippians 4 to search my heart.

We came through REJOICING and PRAISING Him. Had He not blessed us with the ability to pay for these things years earlier? Then this is all we need now. And if we need more we'll follow Matthew 7-

As in Matthew 7: 8-
 "For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened. Or what man is there among you who, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will he give him a serpent? 11 If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask Him!"

To those who ask Him!! PRAISE God!! We are INCREDIBLY BLESSED!!

I'll be taking my laptop on vacation to share the JOYs of our time in the woods! :o)
Our cup OVERFLOWS!! PRAISE God!!

p.s. If I could ask you kindly, PLEASE read this about Mercy House and help them if the Lord leads you to do so!
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Saturday, June 25, 2016

Invisible Boys

G will be leaving in a few days. He will disappear into "programs" and children's "homes" for those boys who can't function in a family. It doesn't matter that he functioned his best ever in our family. The State says he has to move on. He has already lived in 1 program and 1 other foster home before us. Three placements now going into 4 in one year. So sad.

I wish I could share the photos of him loving our older teens here. It is heart breaking. He feels safe, warm and loved. We won't tell him he's leaving until the day they take him.

His parents signed away their parental rights, his mom told him goodbye. He was o.k. with it for now because he likes where he lives. Eventually he'll wonder where they went.
But once again government rules (we can only have 10 under 18) say he never even should have even come here.

So why do they keep sending us these invisible boys who steal our hearts? Why do they hurt these boys by taking away their one possibility of a least restrictive environment?

We pray.


 The teens built him a house. We thought he'd love it! Everybody worked so hard on it!

                  Four walls decorated by 4 teens. I did the roof.

Decorated inside and out.
G hated it! LOL!!
After inspecting it, and trying it, he got ready to body slam it.
Oh my! The teens rescued it from G. And took it to their brothers.

Noah left front, Jacob left center, Moses left back.
Julius right front, Pauly right in back.
The brothers really really tried to like the house. They loved being in it with one of the older sibs. But they found no use for it on their own.

                           Jacob didn't want to stay in. :o)

Moses used it the most, only because he saw how much the older kids wanted him to like it! He tried! But he's an action guy. Not a "house" guy! So off he ran with cars in tow.

Julius tried to think of how it might work in his little curious monkey schemes. Nothing came to mind. Thank goodness he doesn't know how to body slam!!

Who are invisible boys?

(Warning what I'm going to say won't make anyone comfortable.)

They are boys that no one else has time for.

Boys like G, CC, Samson and our 5 youngest. Boys that people never ask about. Boys that if I am truthful I'd say no one really even cares about them. Seriously, IF they cared wouldn't they make time?

If I am talking to someone and bring up my boys, they go silent. They don't say anything. Sometimes someone might say "that's nice" or "cute". But they don't have time for it. They're busy.
No one has ever gone out of their way to be a part of these boy's lives. Only my mom asks how they are.

Some people blow me off and say "You are surely going to Heaven!" ...........what?.................... I just told you Noah has finally let us know he wants seconds at dinner!!??

If I ask someone to do something for the boys, help them, or heaven forbid spend time with them. (because the boys can't ask) They act as though they are doing "me" as a huge favor. Not doing it for one of our boys. Because if they do anything for our boys, the boys can't pay them back. They can't even thank them. So if others do these "favors" for me, they do expect me to be very thankful to them. Which of course I am. But I often tire of the "doing it for me", making my boys invisible again. Do we only do things for those who can repay us?

I'm the only voice my boys have.

I'm glad they don't "see" the rejection. They don't "see" that no one outside our house remembers their birthdays other than my mom. They never seem to notice the lack of interest others have for them. They smile just as happy to rude people as they do to me! :o) Should that make it o.k.?
They never had much, so they don't complain.

Some of the children we raised say all of this has only happened because it was "my choice".
My choice? that these children had nowhere to go, so I took them in? It wasn't a "choice". I responded to a need greater than me. These grown children also criticise that we took too many.
When the need was them, should I have said no? Would their lives really have been so much better? Do they realize we only get called when it's an emergency? We are the last on the list- and we said yes, because they were the un-wanted child. So since they never had to go without they can now tell us what we should have done?

Is it always so simple? Am I really in "control"?
Absolutely not.
To the adult children we raised-
God knew which children were coming here before we were all even born. God sent the children/you. I prayed for the Lord to send who (you) needed us. If you are ashamed that you were who he sent to us, talk to Him. Ask the people around you- would they have raised you? Why didn't God place you there with them?  

The bunk beds I asked my only SIL Dan to make are done. I'll show them set up in their rooms soon. We hope to get them set up this week. Dan is incredibly talented. Praise God! Poor guy possibly has no idea that he was an answer to my prayers, not just his wife's! ;o) 
(We could never afford to buy these new.) 

As G prepares to leave we are helping him gain strength- super powers. He is a Super Hero!! SUPER G!!! He did not know what the Bible was or who God was before he came. We taught him to pray. We can only accept his leaving by knowing that God will always be with him. Praise God!!

It's going to be a hard day when he leaves. Four teens are going to cry. G's heart will be broken when he realizes he's not coming back. We won't be allowed to see him. He's moving far away. But he'll never leave our hearts and prayers.

Please, find an invisible boy near you and give him a hug, or bring him a treat.

Saturday, June 4, 2016

Boys-Boys-Boys!!

 No news on G yet. This could take forever. We are told by the State he needs to move on because we don't qualify for a Child Foster Care license. (we already have 10 children under age 18)
The County wants him to stay here. He is thriving. And we adore him. Where will he go? A staffed Group Home, "if" they can find one. We asked for a Denial of the license so we could appeal. But they won't even answer us that yet.

 Love to kiss the top of G's little (big!) head!

 You can barely see the red string in front of him holding his cherished Happy Birthday mylar balloon.

G is one of NINE boys here! There are only 7 of us girls!!

Mr Noah deep in thought, turned 13 this month! Woo-Hoo! We have 4 teenagers now! The hormones have really affected him greatly. We are dealing with a little depression and some regression in behavior. He's still as sweet as ever. But not so cheerful.

 Moses our Minion in charge! LOL! He is learning "sign" language at an amazing rate right now. This is why we like to homeschool year round. Last Fall he still wasn't signing or attempting to communicate other than random throat sounds that were not understandable. Now he taps someone for help and points to what he wants. He follows requests to "pick up your toy". (the toy that he randomly drops on the floor!) He feeds himself everything and signs for more. He is amazing!

Jacob is now walking through an entire room before taking a break. He loves to explore and look out windows. He's very curious. But he still fears strangers. Instead of crying when he sees new people he now "shuts down". He won't look in their direction and he won't make a peep. He only communicates with tapping or touching at meals. The rest of the time he prefers to be left alone- ha! ha! As if we can do that! He's too cute!

 Julius turned 9 this month. My baby! He's been home 5 years. He and Pauly have the least memories of their orphanage. Jakie and Noah still miss things from those days. Moses misses nothing about that time, but those memories motivate him to work super hard at his independence. An independence that he never takes for granted.

Julius is our cheeky monkey. Always up for trouble. Which entertains Moses greatly! So Moses will bring Julius "trouble"!!! He'll get things to give Julius, like the water squirt bottle we use to squirt our cat if she's naughty. Julius can get the cover off and pour out all the water!! Darn Mosie!!
We have to squirt Mosie if he pulls the cat's tail- he just won't stop!!
Julius is very bright but not very motivated. He doesn't learn from his mistakes. So he repeats them over and over. He is as stubborn as can be!
He knows many signs but he won't use them unless I tell him to "tell me". Even then he might ignore me.

Precious Pauly.
He has very poor hearing, he qualifies for deaf/hard of hearing services. And he has his Autism.
His world has been expanding though. Recently he started "showing" he was angry!! He took a toy from his sister Mercy's basket. Mercy used to not even care about her toys. But she is growing too, and now she has decided that she does care!! So she followed Pauly to the hallway where he had sat in a chair to play with the toy, and she grabbed it back and ran to her room with it!! Pauly got up and followed her. She is fast and he is slower. He got into the room and saw she had the toy by her. He looked very unhappy. He walked back into the hallway and sat in his chair and stomped his feet, making an unhappy sound. He was mad!!
Most of the time Pauly is very silly, happy go lucky, and now he gets angry!

 Samson is busy learning to vacuum, fold his laundry and keep himself busy. He's always willing to help. He'd love nothing better than to spend the day telling his brothers and his dad what to do! When he has nothing to do he has a hard time finding something to do. He's not a TV watcher. He only likes one setting on his IPad. (fireworks)
He does like music. He has his own Bose radio/CD player that is turned off and on by him just touching it. He listens to CDs and makes tall lego towers. He used to write and draw until he decided he wanted to decorate his room with markers. We thought he'd outgrown this but I guess when you get creative it's hard to stop! :o)

My biggest boy helper, now 12. He has a heart of gold. And he shares a room with three of his brothers! They are very good roommates. Isaiah tends to them, getting his brothers what they need and they in return stay out of his things. :o)

We are super excited. The boy's favorite Brother in law Dan is making them new bunk beds!
The bunks they have now are stacked 2 high with too much bed space. I measured and brainstormed. The new bunks will be 3 high instead of 2. They will be the same height as the old bunks because the bottom bunk will sit on the floor with no space underneath. They will be 7" narrower and 17" shorter. They'll take up less space!

One set will go in Samson's room, with Samson on top, Noah on the bottom, Moses in the middle. Right now Samson and Noah share the bunk beds and Mosie has a trundle that slides from under.

In Isaiah's room the other triple bunk will sleep Julius on top, Pauly in the middle and Jacob on the bottom. Right now we have 2 sets of bunks in that room for Isaiah and those 3.
We are not sure if we'll keep Isaiah on his top bunk with the bottom bunk empty, or give him a single bed.

Last of all this boy. The leader of the pack! LOL!!(remember that song from the 60's!?) He just finished putting in a lovely ceiling fan in the living room to keep us all cool this summer. Now if only he'd finish painting the ceiling! ;o)
He has been growing more grey hair than usual chasing our sweet G. around. It has really helped G to have an ever present man/foster dad in his life. I tell Tom God sent G to him. They learn from each other. :o)