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Friday, September 26, 2014

Oh my sweet Pauly

These were taken at bed time. Pauly has such a hard time sleeping. Even with medication. His little bed here is next to me. And he loves it, but sleep does not come easily.
Pauly has Autism, and he worries about everything. Change upsets him. He thrives on knowing what's next! Knowing makes him smile! 
When Tom picked him up with Julius 3 years ago, Pauly attacked Julius with finger nails and hair pulling. That was pretty daring! Julius was the stronger/quicker/older boy by 5 months. But Pauly won because Julius was not prepared! And that is so not like Pauly. He's such a gentle soul. And he has never hurt anyone again.

He throws his pillow and blankies and messes up his sleeping bag until all that is left is his foam pad.
He moans and groans and grunts and licks his lips till he falls asleep around 10 or 11 p.m. Long after the other boys. And then he's up around 3 a.m. fussing again. Six a.m. comes quick, we get up and he's asleep, we have to wake him. He'd sleep all morning if we let him. But he "naps" at noon. Most times just playing in his bed.

 He makes sounds like "mamma- babba" but only when he feels like it. So if he starts we encourage him!! Here Lysa gives him the ball. He's really not interested. But he likes the thought! :o)

                                                 So he holds it because he's being polite.

                                                  And he begins to wonder.....................

How long does he have to hold it??
The older kids tell him to throw it but Pauly is not a "thrower"

So he lets the ball fall off his lap.
He doesn't want anyone to notice.
He prefers not to have eye contact.
He is our only Bulgarian young man with beautiful blue eyes!
He looks like any American boy!
He's such a beautiful boy, and his Down Syndrome just adds to how handsome he is! :o)

 Now Isaiah (my photographer) tries to see if a wagon ride will prompt Pauly to become  a little animated? :o)

                                                          Weeeeeeeell, not quite! :o)

                                                                          But a little bit!!

 I still can't get enough of him! He's so huggable and squishable! He just LOVES to be LOVED!! He gives great hugs and sloppy kisses!
 Life is just way to serious for him. We try to make it fun and bring him out of his little world.
So we hold him to pull him into ours.
And it's hard. Hard for him to relax. Hard for him to let go.

Until we whisper to him how much we LOVE him!! And he laughs and laughs. And he relaxes, and his JOY is contagious!
That's how he tells us that he LOVES us! Laughter! He will just start laughing and we are quite surprised by it but quickly encourage him with hugs and kisses. Then we share in his laughter with him!
We LOVE this boy to pieces!!

When Tom had gone to visit Pauly first visit in Bulgaria, about the 3rd day/visit Pauly started to laugh! The staff at the orphanage were shocked and all felt it was the Holy Spirit because in 3 1/2 years he had shown no emotion! But He knew.........he just knew............that Tom was his new Daddy and he laughed throughout the entire visit! One of the orphanage staff could not resist hugging him as he laughed!
Our Dear Sweet boy!

I mentioned before, we think his heart surgery was such a shock to him......being alone..........and add to that the "orphanage autism" he saw.
His Autism has not resolved itself in any way, as his brothers has. The other 4 boys have relaxed and developed new more social behaviors.

This is picture is a good  sweet example of how Pauly's heart really is............LOVING. He's holding hands with Noah here. Noah is a toucher too. So he understands Pauly wanting to hold hands.

If Pauly holds hands with Moses or Jacob they push his hand away. I encourage them to hold Pauly's hand, because it takes Pauly a good 15 minutes before he reaches over to hold their hand. But Moses and Jacob just say no.

Julius and Pauly are very close since coming home together, so Julius will hold hands with Pauly. He LOVES Pauly Dearly, but he can be mean to him too. We all cry when Pauly is hurt, because he's such a gentle soul. Noah, Moses and Jacob would never think of being mean to Pauly. For the most part Mercy ignores him. So Pauly can be braver around them than he is with new people.
Oddly enough he sometimes goes directly to new people and then lets out all his anguish by huffing and puffing, but he won't leave them! So I get him and he feels he's been rescued! Silly boy!

God has truly blessed us with Pauly! Three years have flown by so fast! I was lost without him! He has saved me from spending way too much time thinking about myself. It's much more fun to think about Pauly! God knew I needed a little boy like Pauly in my life!
Thank You God!! I don't deserve Your Gifts!


  1. How very precious he is. That smile is worth so much. Autism is a very hard thing for children and families. Anyone can see is doing very well. God is so good. Give them all a hug from me! Blessings!

  2. Thanks so much for sharing more about Pauly. It's great to hear about another little guy like our son with beautiful blue eyes, heart surgery alone as a baby, autism, great hugs and kisses, and an abundant measure of handsomeness. We are blessed, aren't we? :)

    1. Wish I could see your precious little guy Carol! (((HUGS))) We are very Blessed!


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