Tuesday, August 20, 2013
Did she really bite Dad's toe?
She had used crying and tantrums as a means to communicate everything she did not like. And there was little she did like.
Now she only cries for reasons that make more sense. Things we can figure out.
When she cried for no reason, she seemed a lost soul.
Now she belongs. No longer lost, home for good at long last.
But if she hits her chest in anger or slaps her face, or taps things loudly to show she's not happy; she listens when I warn her that she may receive a time out. And she settles down.
Today washing her hair she let out one loud cry. I told her no crying. She did so well. She listened. Crying leads to tantrums, tantrums lead to hitting others (even me) and self abuse.
She gets it. She's trying! She has the maturity of a 3 year old. She'll be 6 next month. It's hard for her.
She has lots of life experience. First living with birth mom, then living with birth dad and paternal grandma, then living with a pre-adoptive family about 9 months, then visiting 2 more pre-adoptive families, and finally us.
But then being carted back and forth from March to June, due to legalities.
She had no say in any of it.
This is often from lack of sleep. She has a very hard time falling asleep. But she is learning to do that now too. So if she needs help we have to give her her medication, only about half a dose. She knows what it does, she was on it for years before we weaned her off. It makes her drowsy. It calms her down. Once all her medicals come we can get her new medicine from her new Dr to help sleep.
And yes, we don't know why, but after Tom changed her diaper and as he was changing her brother Mosie's diaper, she bit his toe- hard!! LOL!! We have no idea why! But y'know Dad's not one to pay much attention to little girl's moods, so she figured out a good way to get his attention! LOL!! She's very smart!