Sunday, August 25, 2013
A new 18 year old! Samson Malachi
Our first group of kids ages are (and would be ages because 3 are in Heaven) 37,37,34,32,30 and 26. (one 37, 30 and 26 yr old in Heaven)
Our second group of kids ages are 23,21,20,18 and Samson now 18 too!
Our last group of kids ages are- 12,11,10,10,9,8,8,6,5,5 !!!!! (next month the last 2- 5 yr olds will turn 6, so it will be 3- 6 yr olds)
I think we need a 7 year old! LOL!!
I have blogged about Samson's start in our family here~
In 2010 when I started this blog I wrote about him. And more about him in early 2011. Around 2012 Samson lost interest in being blogged about! LOL! He stopped asking me to post his pictures. And to be honest I was so busy with Julius & Pauly coming home I was fine with that!
He was going through his teens. He was busy. Adolescence has been rough. Including a little depression.
And then Gabriel turned 18 in February and jumped into his chosen life of total independence. Samson was the last child in his age group left at home- he was alone, he was sad. Life seemed to have passed him by. His favorite number one mentor and brother was gone. I know Gabriel doesn't notice, after all he's 18, but I hope when Gabriel is settled into adulthood he remembers Samson. Samson never forgets Gabe, and Samson would love to be a part of Gabe's life. Just as he's a part of his sister Grace's life. He has a new suit for her wedding!!
So after Gabriel left we had some adjusting to do. "We" (Tom and I) had dropped the ball. Samson rebelled. Samson was ready to move out too. And if he couldn't, he could check out mentally!
Ouch! This mommy's heart was hurting for him.
And I made some big changes.
Now this BIG guy is in charge! Now he has his own purpose. Yeah minus the Independence- but one thing at a time!
I'll post some fun pictures of his "in charge" activities soon.
He's still in homeschool, grade 9 this year.
When we adopted Samson from TX, M.A. and our Susie (our gal who had DS and died from alzheimers at age 44 after living here 16 years) came with us. We had 5 of the kids along too. Only 1 of our children traveling with us was white! Believe me in 1998 this did get attention! Grace found it quite humorous! TX helped us rent a $300 a night suite for $80 a night!! It was 2 floors. We loved it, it was so much fun! A kitchen, living room etc! There was a Laundromat to use at the hotel too! We stayed 5 days! We drove to TX, it was our 2nd trip driving down. (we did 3 total driving trips to TX, for 3 of the kids)
Our first trip to TX we flew- after that I said no more! It was the Blizzard of 1990 here with 3' of snow- we flew home into a closed airport. Tom almost killed us driving us 70 miles home from the airport on the closed Interstate with a 1 month old baby. It only took us 4 hours. OY! Travels with Tom!
When I took him to his first pediatric cardiologist visit in our City, the Dr (who drove up from the University of MN) told me
"The Dr who did Samson's surgery is a very well known Pediatric Cardiologist who had just moved away from working at the University of MN. He is the best there is!"
I get chills typing that- God sent the very best pediatric cardiologist from my state to TX so that when Samson was born, he would operate on my son! Thank You God!!
Samson's growth was affected by his heart, he is 4' 11" and 130 pounds of muscle. That muscle due to his black heritage has meant he has had very little hypotonia.
His heart used to beat too slow for his age. The leak was a level 4 but after joining our family it went to a 2!!!!!!!! But now it's back to a 3. He will take medication if anything is more concerning, he's stable for now. But he does tire easily and needs naps and at least 10 hours sleep.
Because our baby Joy had died from heart complications I was afraid. How long would I have Samson. With God's gentle prodding I realized it didn't matter. It was going to be just fine, no matter what happened. God is with us!
After Samson arrived home we took him to our city's very first Pediatric Cardiologist. The Dr was brand new from Medical school. He too is black. Samson loves him. His Cardiologist's name is Dr Chip, and he has given him excellent care for 16 years! (Dr Chip is an adoptive Dad of 2!!) Samson knows that he, himself is black. He had never lived with white people before us. But thanks to his foster families love and kindness towards us, he accepted us. (He is drawn to people of all colors and especially loves people who speak foreign languages!)
I just realized as I typed this- soon he will have to move on from Dr Chip because Dr Chip only cares for children!!......................oh! no! (sniff-sniff-cry) How can we trust anyone else? Praying God has a special Dr for us!! :o)
This is why we've only had 2 out of 17 children adopted receive government funds! Too many hoops!
Here's the gang having Birthday cake.............before the littles in their high chairs get their cake everywhere! LOL! No candles for Samson- fire and Samson don't mix! LOL!
The Iron Man cap is from me, Big sis Grace and her soon to be hubby (in 3 weeks) got him a book, drawing paper and cool crayons. I ordered him a super cool Spiderman jacket but it did not arrive in time. :o(
We don't "wrap" gifts here. Wrapping paper is a luxury- we can spend those $$ on diapers! ;o)
Don't mind the dining area- its become a conglomeration of donations for the pregnancy resource center on the end of the table, and my glass collection that did not sell in the curio I'd hoped would be empty. :o(
The table is real wood and we've shortened it from the 10' it was to make room for high chairs. The worn-ness on the table shows 20 years of use. School books, dinners, crafts. It has been well loved!
We are SO BLESSED!!