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Friday, April 27, 2012

Rumors? I'm sorry but I'm hurt

I was posting pictures and updating Tom's Thursday visit when Tom Skyped me.

He was told that my blog sounds as if I am unable to type a post on here or get out of bed.

And that my blog sounds as if  I am unable to care for all that I do. Possibly not being able to care for the new boys also.


From what I recall, I only wrote how hard it is to do this. Not that I can't or I am unable.

I tell the truth here- things like- yes our adult kids don't help me. And yes it would be great if some of my bloggy buddies lived closer to help. And yes this is NOT easy. But I have done it for over 36 years. I don't know how to do anything else.

And yes, prayers were answered on a day I was extra tired and wondered if I'd get Isaiah's virus/fever after being up all night with him. And worried about catching MA's tummy virus. I do get weak when I'm tired, don't you?

And yes I have been busier than usual- fund raising non-stop and selling things on ebay. Answering tons of new e-mails from really nice new people. I am on the computer waaaay too much raising every penney I can for my 3 boys!

Y'know someone seems to have it out for me. And I guess that's just part of the bloggy world. Someone doesn't like my opinion, and gets a bee in their bonnet. I have had to cut back on some of my computer groups to spend more time with family and fund raising. We still need $10,000.00. Yesterday 2 auctions closed out but I lost a buyer. That hurt.

Sometimes satan isn't the reason for division, sometimes it is us. Something we do that intentionally hurts another person-and we can't blame our actions on satan. I know I sin, no matter how hard I try not to.

Recently I had confided heart felt things to a group of women I thought I could trust. Now I don't know who to trust. It's a sad day for me. If the intent was to hurt me. I have been hurt. I still pray nothing but good for whoever you may be.

To those of you who have supported us through thick and thin. We LOVE you more than words can say.
YOU are the wind beneath our wings!
God Bless you!

Now I will resume my normal blogging, I just had to get that off my chest.


  1. Oh my...

    I can say as a completely outside blog-lurker (who found you via Elizabeth DeHority's blog) - it doesn't look to me like you sound overwhelmed or unable to fulfill your vocation.

    Instead, I see the fulfillment of some of my favorite quotes by Mother Teresa, specifically these two:

    "Intense love does not measure, it just gives." - Mother Teresa

    And, what you and your family are trying to remedy for three precious boys - a heroic thing in and of itself:
    "Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat." - Mother Teresa

    Beyond that, I'm challenged by your witness of giving 100% of yourself to those God has placed in your care, and then trusting He will give you whatever strength you need to do what He wills.

    This is real life, and it is a little messy sometimes, but oh the beauty of it all!

    Be blessed, and encouraged!

  2. I have never met you, but I wanted to tell you that I have a huge amount of respect for what you have done and what you are continuing to do. The story of your family and of the other Pleven families has inspired us to adopt a child with DS from Eastern Europe. May God Bless you! Praying that Noah, Moses and Jacob come home ASAP!!! -Kristie

  3. You are an angel on earth. These boys, and all of your other children, are blessed. That you do so much is of course tiring; but you do it! Continue on your path. Only one person needs to comment and that is God. Lisa L.

  4. Yes...listen. People will always be out to tear other people down. And yes, I have learned that the blog world is a cruel place. Well, it CAN be, but it can also be an amazing and generous place. You have to choose to embrace the uplifting and absolutely ignore the ugly.

    Because you are doing a good and lovely and God-honoring thing, and truly, there is no question in my mind but that you can do this work and that you are fully capable.

    I LIKE that you don't try to pretend that it's perfect or that you're still 20 or that you don't get tired. Anyone with more than a few kids already knows that real life with kids - any kids - is imperfect and exhausting. But it's clear that you WILL take care of them and do what needs to be done.

    Please don't feel bad and don't worry about what people might say. Keep your eyes on Jesus and on the work God has given you. You ARE a great encouragement to younger moms. I am 43, and a mother of nine children. I don't often feel like a younger mom any more (Ha Ha!) yet still, you encourage me to keep going. You know - it helps me to know that I can do whatever God asks me to do, whether that is to adopt or to care for my elderly parents or whatever it might be. He is the ONE who puts love in our hearts and who gives us what we need.

    Thanks, E. You're amazing. :)

  5. Ok, anyone who knows any large family...and ones with special needs blessings.... KNOW it isn't always easy. I wonder if they think moms of many are Energizer Bunnies. You are human like the rest of us...and such a treasure. You spend so much more time with your blessings than some moms of two and three.

    Many of us TOTALLY get it and I didn't ONE TIME think you couldn't do this...be a mom of these precious blessings! I thought, like all moms, you have some rough days sometimes. I wish I lived closer and could come and give you a hug...hanging out would be a BLAST! Hugs and much love....

  6. Oh Elizabeth, I'm so sorry someone has mouthed off. :( Of course it's tiring being a full-time mother and then with the addition of special needs children, and the responsibility of MA & SA! If anyone would follow your blogs for very long, they'd see how much you and Tom pour into your family. And that's just it. This is your family (some in your house, some still on their way) and you will do anything you need to do in order to take care of each other! I know it hurts when someone you trust betrays you. God sees the whole picture and I know you will not let ignorant opinions stop you from continuing this call to follow Him. God bless you, sweet friend.

  7. I'm sorry someone hurt you, Elizabeth, especially when you at a low spot already. I've been where you are and it's hard. :( But I completely agree with Lisa L. God's opinion is the only one that truly matters. ((((Hugs))))

  8. That is very sad to hear. I don't know who would feel this way. It is easy as parents of special needs children to be overwhelmed from time to time. But it doesn't mean that you are unable to care for yourself or your children. It sounds like some are a bit small-minded and uneducated if they feel this way.

  9. You did not sound like you were unable to do it to me. You have managed to keep a cheerful spirit in spite of the difficulty. If anyone knows what they're in for with adding 3 more, then it's surely you. You rock. Baa humbug on anyone that says otherwise!

  10. The only thing I take from your posts is your endless joy and sacrificial love showered on your children. You are an inspiration!

  11. Elizabeth, I am so sorry you are having to go through this "hurt." People are too quick to judge! I am about 10 years younger than you and have 2 young grandsons who absolutely wear me out in a very short time! I do have a physical problem that causes me to be more tired than others my age. However, I can't imagine doing all you do even if I didn't have this problem. You are a gift from God to these children. Hold your head high and tell Satan to "get out of my way"! People like you and Tom who have hearts as big as they come to spend your time caring for "the least of these" are few and far between. I work with children every day. I know how important it is for someone to step out in faith and help those who others choose not to help. It's not easy, but it's rewarding. Look to God for strength, don't let Satan steal your joy! Praying for a quick trip home for your boys!

  12. I agree with everyone above. Some people just think their own opinions are just SOOOO important (rolling eyes). It is very hurtful--but I am late to this post and I bet by now you have recovered some strength and see that that person is sad and inadequate in him or herself. Add pride to that and you have a nasty combination! You are wonderful, dedicated, and CAPABLE! Bless you and your precious family always!!!

  13. I just saw this post....from another mommy who adopted multiple special needs children (even though its only 2) & who had a live in resident to also care for (40 yr old man with MH/MR)...who was also at one time raising money to fund an adoption....many do NOT get it that you are expected to always have $500 for this form, $150 for that form, $10,500 for this fee, etc. etc. AND they tell you out of the blue when you think you have it all finished that you must do MORE paperwork, have another home visit from a social worker. Now, add into that stressful mix of trying to "pay" for your child to come to their forever home the rest of the household to get a horrid flu AND YOU ARE THE ONLY ADULT IN THE HOME WHO CAN GIVE MEDS, DRIVE TO APPTS, COOK MEALS, etc. ALL while YOU TOO ARE JUST AS ILL, have been up DAYS ON END because when one sick child finally falls asleep the other wakes up!! Then come 8am the calls start, breakfast needs made, meds given, doctors appts, school, day programs, emptying "barf buckets", finding another way to rob Peter to Pay Paul for another $500 your adoption worker says you need by the following Monday .... and maybe, just maybe you have time to take a potty break before you bladder ruptures & brush your teeth!! SO SHAME ON WHO EVER SAID WHATEVER ABOUT YOUR BLOG & SITUATION....the old saying about "walking a mile in someone's shoes...well, they need to do that! CHIN UP BECAUSE I SOOOO UNDERSTAND & NEGATIVE PEOPLE ARE NOT WORTH THE WORRY...you know the truth & so do we! LOVE ALWAYS!


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