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Monday, March 12, 2012

Looking back

We've never celebrated "gotcha day". For many of our kids, it just was a very stressful day for them.
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This is a picture of Julius (blue) and Pauly (green) in the hotel Budapest, Sophia, Bulgaria. After Tom and Gabriel picked them up, cleaned them, dressed them for comfort, and really got to know them and love on them.
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They stressed out. :o(
Julius licking the bed, Pauly self stimulating.
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We wondered, would it have been easier for them, to have adopted only one of them, because together they seemed to multiply their sorrow and fear. They were the only familiar thing they had left and even they weren't that familiar with each other.
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So much sadness. So much for being rescued in their minds.
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I wish I had a recording of the very LOUD continuous noises,the grunting, grinding teeth, and yelling they made! It was impossible for them to be quiet, even while sleeping. As Tom and I Skyped those 5 days, he could not even hear me!
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They were also spitting and biting and drooling.
My heart just aches now remembering how helpless we felt. Holding them made it worse. Watching them was torture. We had to just be there for them. We prayed a lot.
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These last two pictures show their tongues working. Julius still comforts himself when put to bed by sticking his tongue on his blankie or sheet. He licks what he likes!
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Pauly holds his little tongue in now. Both boys are learning that spitting is "icky" and drooling is "ishy". Old habits die hard, but the cute little tongues no longer protrude!
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6 1/2 months later we see lots of positive changes. Pauly gets his own toys from the toy basket! This from a boy who sat and self stimulated for hours- amazing! He loves little kid size chairs, he used to plop his seat down on the floor. Now he scoots himself up into a chair. He still doesn't like to walk...but we're not getting him a wheel chair- LOL!
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Julius IS trying so hard to talk! Sometimes waaay too loud! He walks a lot! He has finally learned that nap time and bed time are not party time! :o) Part of that was Samson's fault! Samson still naps because he has a heart condition. He and Julius share a room. Sometimes Samson can't sleep, or Julius is loud. So Samson decided he would lay Julius down if he popped up. Julius thought it was great fun, he screamed just to get Samson going. Unfortunately Samson then hit him. So now two boys were in trouble!
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Now we are wondering, will our 3 new precious little monkeys remind Julius and Pauly of their previous life? Will they regress after hearing the 3 new boys mourn all that they've lost too? The new boys are older, but will Julius and Pauly keep their maturity or regress around more "worldly" older orphanage boys?
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Whatever happens we're ready! :o)
We wouldn't trade what we are doing for anything!

3 comments:

  1. You guys are such amazing parents and have already endured so much than a lot of parents would be willing to live with. I'm sure whatever God throws at you with the new boys, you will handle it with graciousness, patience, acceptance, and praise. As I currently only have 1 (birth 3 year old), I can only hope that one day I will have a family as diverse as yours. And if they are as "challenging" sometimes as yours can be (I hope this isn't offensive, but from a mom of one's perspective, you deal with a LOT of challenging), I hope I can respond as beautifully as you do.

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  2. Aaaww! Ashlei some day, Precious Lord willing, you may be like us! And you'll do fantastic! :o)
    Thank you for your precious comment! You are so kind!
    (((HUGS))) and prayers! to you and your family!

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  3. What amazing progress in a short period of time...what an amazing family you are!!

    Jennifer

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