We fought the good fight. We lost.
The good news is we found out information that we really needed to know, but had not been told. JC has a behavior that would have very negatively affected our SP who has lived with us 22 years.
SP has Schizophrenia. She is very challenging to live with. People often ask how we do it. :o) Lord willing we do, with His strength. We love her unconditionally. We don't take her behaviors personally. But JC is a man who has a behavior that would cause great tension between him and SP. This could cause him to become aggressive towards Tom and I. (his past has proven this) His behavior would then cause SP to put herself in harms way. She is "drawn" to danger. We can handle lots of behaviors, but acting out aggressively towards us would be too much. SP inviting abuse to happen to herself cannot happen. We found out just in time.
Our County Officially denied his placement today because they felt that our children were most vulnerable to his behavior.
Honestly our children would not have been around JC. Our living area is far from where his room would be.(upstairs) They might see JC at a distance but I can't see them seeking to be with him. Or having a relationship with him. He wants a relationship with a woman. He also prefers solitude. We knew the children would be protected and watched by us. We didn't know about this behavior, when we did we realized that for SP it would be devastating. God was watching over us.
We are sad. We really needed the money to pay for 2 little boy's surgeries and our new adoption. God will show us another way to figure this out. Our budget is so very very tight. We don't "need" anything. We are beyond blessed. Even with the thought of JC moving in we didn't loosen up our strict saving for the adoption!! :o)
We just need help paying for the last 3 boys to come home.
Please pray with us as we find the funds!
((((HUGS))) my precious brothers and sisters in Christ!